For men, March 8 is an important and responsible day. No woman will forgive the lack of flowers and greetings.
And, if on New Year's Day, February 14 and Angel's Day, a man can be forgiven for a poorly chosen gift or a family dinner instead of a date, then it is not worth waiting for such kindness on International Women's Day.
The editors decided to create a “male cheat sheet” that will protect the stronger sex from scandals and grievances from the queen of the holiday.
“Men often do not understand that for a woman the main thing is not a gift, but attention. The absence of 101 roses can be forgiven to you, but the fact that you didn’t even call - never. Therefore, first of all, create a list of women whom you will congratulate: mother, grandmothers, wives, sisters, childhood friends, daughters, and so on. Congratulations for half an hour. In the future, it will relieve you from insults and accusations of indifference, ”notes the social psychologist Ekaterina Melnikova.
According to the psychologist, of course, it is better to call than write a text message or a message on the social network. And to the closest: mother, sister, grandmother - it is better to even call in.
“And most importantly, in addition to compliments, do not forget to tell all women dear to you, for which you appreciate and love them. People too rarely say thanks to their loved ones, and this is very, very important. Believe besides: “Dear Mom, I congratulate you on March 8. I wish ... And further on, ”your mother will be incredibly pleased to hear:“ Thank you for your kindness and tenderness, thanks for understanding, thanks to you, I grew up a happy person, ”the expert adds.
Typical gifts for March 8 are: flowers, sweets, perfumes, cosmetics and jewelry?
If we talk about flowers, then everyone knows that before the holidays they are becoming more expensive, the evening of March 7 will be no exception, as well as the morning of the 8th.
“Yes, we are raising prices, because they will buy flowers anyway. The holiday is the same. On average, on the pre-holiday day, the bouquet will slightly increase in price, ”the florists say.
However, this is not a reason to buy flowers in advance, for example, 6 numbers or not to buy them at all. Firstly, there are very few bouquets bought on the 6th,may actually remain until March 8 and not lose your “presentation”, and secondly, if you have already decided to congratulate your dear girl, you shouldn’t appear without a bouquet of flowers.
“You know, an experienced seller will always find a suitable option for you, because it is important to him that the bouquet be, regardless of whether it has 5 roses or 25 tulips. Usually, men are embarrassed to admit that they have little money, but it is the exact amount you are willing to spend that will help you and the seller save time and nerves, ”one of the sellers of the flower kiosk shares his observations.
According to the psychologist, men most often do not know or don’t remember exactly which flowers their woman loves. And the reason for such “forgetfulness” is not that a man does not love or respect his girlfriend, but that, because of the often stronger sex, he considers flowers to be absolutely not necessary and stupid.
“I recommend one week before the holiday to unobtrusively find out from her lover which flowers she would like to receive. The easiest way is to ask her for advice, referring to the fact that you do not know which flowers to give to your mother or colleagues at work. The main thing - remember her answer.Moreover, if you choose the right bouquet, then your girlfriend will be happy not because of the number of flowers or their quality, but because you “remember” her preferences, ”the psychologist advises.
Women love gifts and that is a fact. However, not every man can afford to give his beloved a diamond necklace or a three-room apartment, which is also, by the way, not news. Therefore, in order to please your woman and not get into debt, gifts should be chosen correctly.
“To begin with, try to find out what gift your second half is dreaming of,” recommends E. Melnikova. “Maybe she needs new shoes or her perfume is over.” March 8 is a holiday for which you can give “useful gifts”: clothes, shoes, cosmetics and so on. Such a gift will be perceived as concern and participation. The main thing - do not give gifts “useful to you two”, today only HER Day: a new sofa or a slow cooker - will cause irritation and a feeling of disappointment. Also, I do not recommend giving money, March 8 is not a Birthday, it is International Women's Day and the main thing is FEMALE, so even the cheapest gift will cause more joyful emotions than an envelope even with a tidy sum. ”
However, the psychologist said that there are exceptions in the field of “useful gifts for two”, they are connected with emotions: tickets for a concert, joint vacations and so on will also be accepted with joy and gratitude.
If, with the realization of the dream of women dear to you, it does not add up, then it is worth considering the “standard” options, which will not only be a good gift, but also allow you to save money, GolosUA writes.
Perfumes are not cheap, but today there is a promotion in several retail chains that buy one bottle of eau de toilette, the second you get as a gift. The same actions are carried out with almost every kind of cosmetics.
Colleagues and friends can also give "useful gifts": cups, diaries, boxes, plush toys, scarves, umbrellas and so on.
“If you are giving a“ useful gift ”, you should tell the woman what the usefulness is:“ a scarf - so that you never freeze ”,“ an umbrella - so that any weather disasters bypass you ”,“ a diary - so that you do not forget about the important ”. Women love with their ears, so such an approach will demonstrate your attentiveness, as well as the enormous amount of time you have spent choosing a gift.Moreover, what a gift will never “cross the line of decency” and will not cause any negative emotions, ”the expert clarifies.
Of the more "expensive" gifts, you should pay attention to jewelry. For lovers of being original, there are all possible master classes, massages, fitness passes, gift certificates and so on. However, the psychologist warns that with such gifts it is worth being careful, because, for example, a culinary master-class paid by a man may be perceived as an insult. “I, what cook so badly?”, - your spouse will exclaim.
Breakfast, dinner and so on
March 8, women try not to cook, so the question of "food", most often takes on a man.
“You can order food at home, you can invite your sweetheart to a restaurant, or you can prepare your own breakfast. It does not matter which option you choose, but make it necessary. Most often, cooking, cleaning, washing and ironing, men take for granted, and a woman is not only a housekeeper, she wants to chop heels and wear chic dresses. Give her the opportunity and she will be happy to feel just a beautiful woman, ”the psychologist notes.
Advice for girls
According to Ekaterina Melnikova, of course, very much on this holiday depends on the man, but do not forget that a lot is not all. Be thankful for your time, for giving you flowers and cooking dinner. Do not demand a lot and do not make scandals, otherwise next year your man may even have a desire to call you on International Women's Day.