The techniques of manipulation are a tool that is widespread among psychopaths, sociopaths, narcissists, and other types of predators, which they use to exercise control over their victims.
At certain points in our life, we all use manipulation techniques: we allow a small lie to get out of a difficult situation, or we flatter to get what we want. However, for some people, manipulating other people is a way of life, and this is their main weapon in the arsenal of methods that allow them to overpower their victims.
Who is most at risk of becoming a predator?
"Predators" use a number of manipulation techniques in order to control their victims, and more often people of certain types become victims. This is due to the fact that some character traits facilitate the manipulators of their work. You are more likely to fall prey to a “predator”, if you have low self-esteem, you are naive,you easily like it, you have little assertiveness and no self-confidence.
Here are the 20 most common manipulation techniques:
"Predators" are constantly lying throughout their lives. They do this to confuse their victim and embarrass her. Lying as a manipulation technique is used by psychopaths without any embarrassment about this.
2. Hiding a piece of information
Predators often conceal a key piece of information in order to put their prey at a disadvantage.
3. Frequent mood swings
If you never know in what mood you will find your partner when you return home, this deprives you of confidence and makes you more pliable. This tool is extremely useful for the “predator”.
4. The alternation of bouts of love and cooling
Narcissists usually use love as a method of manipulation. They try to instill that they are absolutely fascinated by you, and when you begin to think that your relationship is beautiful, it cools sharply without explanation.
This may include persistent discontent, screams, sullen silence, physical abuse and mental repression.
Often the simplest way to manipulate a person is to deny the “predator” of what he is accused of.
7. Distortion of truth
Do you remember how often politicians distort the facts in order to present the case in a favorable light for themselves? The same distortion of truth is often used by sociopaths to justify their bad deeds.
"Predators" often try to downplay their actions and blame the victim for exaggerated reaction.
9. The game of sacrifice
The manipulator often tries to play the role of victim himself in order to gain sympathy and compassion from those around him. People, by nature, are prone to helping the suffering.
10. Prosecution tactics
When the manipulator accuses the victim of some kind of misconduct, he forces her to justify herself, and this allows him to disguise his own methods of manipulation. The focus is on the victim, not the one who blames her.
11. Positive reinforcement
This includes buying expensive gifts and praising them, giving money, constant apologies for their behavior, excessive admiration and exaggerated attention.
12. The variability of the stated goals
You may think that you know what a person is trying to achieve, but if he constantly changes his stated goals, then most likely you are dealing with a "predator."
Transferring a conversation from discussing the actions of a criminal to another topic is a typical way of manipulating.
"Predator" will often speak sarcastically about the actions of the victim in front of outsiders. This is done to lower the self-esteem of the victim and to show his power to others.
15. Awakening Guilt
The one who manipulates will often blame his victim for lack of caring, selfishness or the fact that “they live too easily.” All this helps to confuse the victim and alarm her.
Praising or flattering the victim is one way to gain the trust of this person. The victim is naturally pleased with such compliments, but at the same time her critical assessment is reduced.
17. The game of innocence
A true manipulator will simulate maximum shock and confusion every time he is accused of something. Surprise is so convincing that the victim begins to doubt his own opinion.
18. Increased aggressiveness
Manipulators often use rage and aggression to shock their prey and force it to obey. Anger is also a good tool to close a conversation on an uncomfortable topic. When a victim is frightened, she focuses on controlling anger, not on the topic of conversation.
It is much easier to keep a person under control if he is isolated from his relatives and friends, who could shed some light and tell the truth about the situation.
20. Simulating love and empathy
Predators, such as psychopaths and sociopaths, do not know how to love someone else or empathize with someone, but they can portray these feelings in order to lure a person into their lives.